Sexual_Arousal_Reflection

Movie review: Face Book Parenting: For My Troubled Teen By Stacey-Ann Ottey Clarke: A Project on Parenting Education F. The plot The video “Face Book Parenting: For Troubled Teen” was probably the most surprising parenting video of the year. It was filmed on February 7, 2012 on an open lot. This video featured an angry North Carolina father by the name of Tommy Jordon who is an Information Technology worker. Tommy Jordan made this stunning video for his 15 year old daughter, Hannah because she posted a very disrespectful letter on Face Book about her parents. Tommy sat on a wooden chair and took out a letter which he printed from his daughters.’ Face Book page. The letter was titled “To My Parents”. The father read the letter on youtube so that her friends, family and other parents could listen to it. The letter was highlighting his daughters’ rebellious behaviours; over the overwhelming chores she had to do at home every day .His daughter Hannah made it clear that it was not her responsibility, and refused to do the chores. Hannah’s father was very disappointed in her disgraceful behavior and pierce bullets in her laptop to teach her a lesson. (Computer murder) Problem behaviour The problem behavior can be described as “the behavior of a rebellious teenager” According to the Encarta Dictionary: English (UK), a rebellious teenager is one that opposes or defies authority. This troubled teen was expressing her feelings by posting a disrespectful letter about her parents on Face Book. This behaviour was prevalent throughout the entire letter and was a symbol to show that she was frustrated and angry with her parents. She overthrows her parents’ authority by the use of extremely disrespectful words to her parents in her letter. This aggression was a result of the excess workload that she had to do every day. She absolutely felt like a slave because her mind was in the gutter about how she was forced into doing chores she hated and there was a cleaning lady for that reason. The teen expresses aggrieved feelings because of how her parents treated her badly with chores. The most effective method of examining the teenager rebellious behaviour is to use antecedent, behavior and consequences. Antecedent, A=Antecedent: The event occurring before a behavior and this event prompts that behavior. Behaviour B=Behavior: Response to the events that can be seen or heard. Consequence C=Consequence: The event(s) that follow(s) the behavior and this affects whether the behavior will occur again. Antecedents According to the video clips the antecedents are Hannah being grounded for three months before for a similar behaviour, she was overworked with chores at home, she felt like a slave, she was burdened when she had to get things for her parents all the time and Hannah was tired of picking up after her parents. Behaviour All these antecedents were the cause for the teenager to rebel against her parents. The teen reaction to her frustration was to post a disrespectful letter on Face Book about the things her parents have her doing at home, which she thought was burdensome and not her responsibility. As a result she felt enslaved and used swear words to say she will no longer clean the house, the child reacted to the poor balance between house work and school work, which resulted in being too tired to stay up and do her school work and the teen was tired of picking up after her parents and was outspoken as she posted that they should get it for themselves or the next time she is going to” flip shit”. Consequences The situations that followed Hannah’s rebellious behaviour were; the father took revenge and publicly read and addressed the letter on YouTube, he states that she will not get to use another laptop until she is at college, he mentioned that he is going to make her life much harder, and he also loaded his .45 gun and pierced bullets in her laptop to teach her a lesson about tough love. The fathers’ tough love really made Hannah’s life harder as she was left without a laptop. Effectiveness of strategies used The first incident was the father confiscating her technological devices. Based on the contemporary society we are living in, it is hard for teenagers to live without technology. Taking away her devices showed parental authority. This parenting strategy was short lived, because Hannah went ahead and did something similar again. The second incident was the father publicly reading hannahs’ letter and addressing the problem on YouTube .This had both positive and negative effects. The positive effect was that the father got satisfaction in returning the same treatment to his daughter. The negative effect was that the child being humiliated in public can be very embarrassing and lead to an increase rebellious behaviour. The third incident was evident in the letter when the teen states that her parents must not call her when they are old and helpless. This has negative implications for the parents later on in life. If there comes a time when they are really helpless and the child hold them accountable for what they have done, then they will suffer or be forced to find another way out. The fourth incident was the father threatening Hannah that she will not get a laptop, cell phone and iPod until she is at college. This was a longer period than the three months when Hannah was without those devices. This shows that the parent is in authority and when a child disrespects authority the consequences will be harsher. As a result, the child can definitely learn from this because it will be hard to do without a lap top until college. The fifth incident was the father piercing bullets into laptop. This strategy will have a negative impact on the child’s life. This act was humiliating to Hannah and will leave a scar on her for life which can destroy her future. She might feel embarrassed, traumatized and even resent her parents for life. This “computer murder” was a very harsh sanction for the teenager’s behaviour. The lesson that was taught from the father’s action was that it was appropriate for her to deal with problem situations using drastic and violent measures. Most effective strategy The most effective strategy used to address the situation where the child post a disrespectful letter on face book to her parent, was the father stating that she will not get a laptop, cell phones and iPod until she is at college. This was a longer period than the three months when Hannah was without a laptop. This strategy was the most effective parenting strategy as it should deter inappropriate behaviours in the teenager. Teenagers fear for their possessions and privileges especially technological devices. For the teenager to do without her devices for so long it would be like her “life has ended”. Also the father used this strategy in order to help Hannah to become a better individual and be a productive member of not just the family, but society as well. Theory illustrated in the movie clip Based on the video clip, the theorist that can be linked to the situation is G. Stanley Hall G. Stanley Hall's (1904) characterization of the adolescent period as one of "sturm und drang" or "storm and stress.” In particular, the predominant theoretical views that have evolved since the early twentieth century have conceptualized "storm and stress" in terms of specific characteristics, one of which is parent-adolescent conflict.The behavior that highlighted the view of the theory was when Hannah rebelled against her parent because she thought that she was being pressured with chores. She expresses herself in the letter with several outbursts of disrespectful comments about her parents. Her father, having invaded her privacy on her face book page, found the letter and publicly embarrassed Hannah on YouTube. Reflection My personal learning of this assignment was that teenagers are individuals who express themselves in unusual ways, and adults should learn how to deal with them to get positive results. I strongly believe that this assignment was a relevant assignment especially to adult parents. It helps parents to be aware of challenges that children face and the appropriate parenting style that they can use to help groom children. The relevance of this assignment to me is that it helps me to focus on what I am doing wrong as a parent and to respect the rights of my own child. This assignment also made me aware that interacting with children help with their self esteem, the way they relate to others and how they deal with authority. In summary this assignment has empowered me to make informed decision as it pertains to child-rearing and in particular, adolescent. References Face Book Parenting : For Troubled Teen http://www.youtube.com/watch'v=kl1ujiRidmU&feature=related LYBIO.net social networking with text-script-video blogging service. http://www.lybio.net Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2099958/Dad-shot-daughters-laptop-Facebook-post-wont-let-family-gain-new-fame.html#ixzz20fOus8WA Allyn R (2006) Parents' and teachers' perceptions of adolescent storm and stress: relations with parenting and teaching styles.