Same_Sex_Marriage

What is marriage' Recently, people argue with respect to the definition of marriage. What happened to marriage' To get married is a very important event for almost everyone. Especially for women, marriage and giving a birth could be the two biggest events of their lives. Many people believe that getting married to the one whom he or she loves is natural. However, what do you think if you cannot get married to him or her because it is socially unacceptable' Same sex marriage is a universal issue in our country that affects many different lifestyles in our society that are trying to find the pursuit of happiness regardless of gender. In order to address this issue, one must first define the concept or meaning of marriage. However, this is a rather subjective approach, because the way we define marriage depends on our own views and interpretations. To come straight to the point, I believe that there is a difference between same sex and traditional marriages regarding validity or moral implications. One could argue that the bond between man and woman is valid, since biologically they are able to have a child. Love is a phenomenon, which is purely human. Therefore, if two individuals of the same sex love each other, why can they not celebrate this love through marriage' Natural science should not be an argument against this. Marriage is the legal and public documentation of the love and trust two people share for each other. This means that anyone should be able to marry whomever he or she chooses. Obviously this does not match with traditional or even some contemporary views of marriage. However, is the traditional marriage really so sacred in our society' Today divorce rates are so high, that it is not uncommon to remarry two or three times. Hence, does our society actually have a right to criticize same sex marriages in general they are not taken seriously' The point that marriages play an important role in reproduction is also questionable. As stated above, high divorce rates cannot possibly be a healthy environment for a child to grow up in. Moreover, children will grow up with a lack of family values and continue the trend of divorce during their adult lives. Additionally, there are so many orphans around the world, that couples should consider adopting as an alternative to having a baby. Therefore, if a gay couple would want to start a family out of their marriage adoption could be the answer. I personally do not believe that a child needs both a mother and father figure in order to grow up right. Two men or women can raise a child just fine as long as they are responsible and love their child. Many people are in favor of equal rights for homosexuals. “They say that yes, gays should have the same rights in housing, jobs, public accommodations, and should have equal access to government benefits, equal protection of the law, etc”(Bidstrup). In Sullivan’s essay, he talks about accepting same-sex marriage. If the judge accepted homosexuals as citizens in the Supreme Court, homosexual people would feel free. They do not have to hide and tell a lie anymore. Most people wonder why they desire to get married. The reason is the same as anyone who wants to get married to the one whom he or she loves. It is normal thought. It seems easy to accept these opinions. However, it is very difficult because marriage is between a man and a woman, and this has been a general thought for a long time. Therefore, some religions refuse homosexuality, but it is not a problem any more because of the separation of the church and the state. Homosexuals just want a social right to get married. Some people still argue the definition of marriage. It has been change by homosexuality because human values are equal anyone in the world. Everyone has the same rights. Is marriage to bring up children' No, there are many married couples who do not have children. This is no difference between homosexual marriage and other marriage styles. Nevertheless, if there are people who disagree with the same-sex marriage, they inhibit homosexual people from staying their country (Sullivan 26). Many people disagree with legalizing and recognizing same-sex marriages. According to USA Today/CNN/Gallup Poll of 1,006 adults conducted on March 15-17, 1996, nearly 70 percent of U.S. adults oppose gay marriages (National Campaign). The least opposition comes from those who are young, female, or better educated. In Bennett’s essay, he writes two points which divide opinions about homosexual marriage. One is whether homosexual marriage strengthens or weakens the institution. The other is what the marriage is. If the definition of marriage were extended too much to include homosexual union, the tradition of marriage would be changed. However, there are many people who want to get married to their children or more than two people. Bennett asks how we can consider these people. It is difficult to say what the moral is. Marriage also means to decide your best partner. Everyone desires a beautiful life with a partner, but most marriage is not as the ideal as we think. He mentions that many supporters of homosexual couple do not share this ideal (Bennett p.30). Another different opinion from proponents to opponents of same-sex marriage is “the very heart of marriage itself” (Bennett p.30). Marriage is that a man and a woman love, respect, and help each other. That is what people learn in this society. The definition cannot be changed easily by anyone. In addition, this thought has been taught for a long time in American history. Therefore, we should respect and keep this thought. Many conservative religionists privately oppose gay marriage in party because it would undermine the legal basis for sodomy laws. It would be hard to justify, before a court, allowing a couple to marry and then legally bar them from having sexual relationships.(Bidstrup) Many people believing that homosexual couples should not receive the same rights as heterosexual couples affect this issue. Religious groups believe that the gay lifestyle is very immoral to one's values. Morals and what his or her family thinks of the lifestyle also come along with being gay or lesbian. Many very successful men in the United States such as lawyers, doctors, and advertising executives are gay as well. Same-sex marriage should be legalized and recognized in every state. In conclusion, there are many different types of love such as loving family, friendships, to love your pets, to love the one who you should not, your boyfriend or girlfriend and so on. Nobody will predict to love someone because love comes by chance. So the worldwide concern of same-sex marriage in our nation that manipulates our society’s different lifestyles who are trying to find the pursuit of happiness regardless of gender. References Bennett William. “Leave Marriage Alone”. Constructing Others Constructing Ourselves. Ed. Sibylle Gruber et al. Kendall/Hunt, 2002. Bidstrup, Scott. Gay Marriage: The Arguments and the Motives. 13 October 2000 http://www.Bidstrup.com/marriage.htm. Sullivan Andrew. “Let Gays Marry”. Constructing Others Constructing Ourselves. Ed. Sibylle Gruber et al. Kendall/Hunt, 2002.