Research_Proposal_for_Premarital_Sex

Chapter I The Problem and its Background Introduction: In today’s world where modernization is a big factor in the massive change of the world’s society, there is a major problem that affects the lives of innocent teens, that is premarital sex. It is a sexual activity including vaginal intercourse, oral sex and anal sex practiced by persons who are not married (Cavendish, 2008). It is a modern dilemma to be considered because of its worldwide effects, such as HIV-AIDS, teenage pregnancy and immorality in connection to the Catholic Church and other religions. People are aware with what problems and diseases it can give. But no matter how popular it might be, there is no satisfying answer to why there is an increasing rate to the teens who are engaged to this problem. Premarital Sex is a dilemma as mentioned earlier, and of course there are reasons why teens are engaged to this. And with the help of this research we can pinpoint the reasons why students are engaged to this and whether it is being done in universities and specifically here in South Western University. By conducting a study, it will solidify and strengthen the information enclosed in this research. It is a basic way of knowing where to start and how we are going to address this kind of matter. Premarital sex is a very sensitive topic because of the RH Bill under debate in the senate. And because of that bill we are separated from each other’s decisions whether to support or not the RH Bill. But one thing remains constant, premarital sex is still the problem that devours our humanity with or without the RH Bill, premarital sex won’t be changed. It is still a life-threatening disease. Statement of the Problem: Premarital Sex is one of the reasons why students usually perform badly in school and why students drop-out from their class and studies. * How do students perform in class before they were engaged to premarital sex' And how do they perform when they started doing it' * Why does the government allow the students to engage to this matter' Are there any law prohibiting schools from allowing students to do that matter' * In what way does teen age pregnancy causes the students to drop-out' Hypothesis: Premarital Sex does not affect the student’s intellectual capacity and may be a good reason why students would perform better in school/class. Assumption: By the end of this research proposal, we can conclude that students must be aware of what disasters it can give them, not just intellectually but also in health matters. Definition of Terms: Premarital Sex. It is pertaining to sexual intercourse before being legally married. (Webster 2008) HIV-AIDS. Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) is the cause of Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS). It can be transmitted sexually, via contaminated needles or blood transfusions, and from mother to child during pregnancy, birth or breast feeding (Wikipedia). Teenage Pregnancy. It is formally defined as a pregnancy in a young woman who has not reached her 20th birthday when the pregnancy ends, regardless of whether the woman is married or is legally an adult (age 14 to 21, depending on the country). In everyday speech, the speaker is usually referring to unmarried minors who become pregnant unintentionally (Kaplowitz 2006). RH Bill. The Reproductive Health bills, popularly known as the RH Bill,are Philippine bills aiming to guarantee universal access to methods and information on birth control and maternal care. The bills have become the center of a contentious national debate (Wikipedia). Oral Sex. It is sexual activity involving the stimulation of the genitalia of a sex partner by the use of the mouth, tongue, teeth or throat. Cunnilingus refers to oral sex performed on females while fellatio refers to oral sex performed on males. Anilingus refers to oral stimulation of a person's anus. Oral stimulation of other parts of the body (as in kissing and licking) is usually not considered oral sex (Wikipedia). Chapter II Survey of Related Literature There have lately been hot discussions on topics concerning premarital sex and premarital childbirth. I kept on reading the various comments and reflecting upon them has culminated into this article. As far as the Indian ethos go both are like forbidden fruit eating which we have to face the consequences. But as the societal behavior is changing particularly in metro cities and towns how it affects the mentality of our younger generation can be understood only by living within the society.  When I meet youngsters belonging to the middle class, related to my family or from neighborhood, I find these shy children still blush with the name of love itself. They are trapped in the struggle of resolving career-oriented problems on the one hand and are in a blind race of adopting the western lifestyle. They are keen to adopt card culture and fast food trend, while love is still a romantic dream for them. Trapped in traditional disparities these youngsters seem to shy from physical relationship. But when I go through the personal columns and discussion boards in the magazines, I find most of their talks revolving around issues of premarital sex, their physical involvements and their confusions arising thereof. The newspapers are full of such love messages, in the chat room of Internet cafes these youngsters appear to be very bold.  I get perplexed with the projection of this double standard of this new young Indian lot. What is the truth' They might have indulged in the physical relations out of natural curiosity but their Indian cultural norms must also lead to conflict within their minds. These premarital relations give rise to the problem of mental distress. Because our Indian traditions emphasize that physical relation and sex should be with only the one you get married. All love affairs are not successful: some are sacrificed due to circumstances and societal pressures while fade with the passage of time. In these cases, if there has been physical involvement, then these Indian youngsters cannot embezzle it, and their traditional views do not allow them to accept it. This remains alive in their life and revives like an ulcer in their personality.  In India, the large percentage of boys and girls belonging to middle class families of small towns are still ignorant of sexual relations till they get married. This is also a negative approach. One class of these youngsters wants to be known as progressive, they stay in big cities while enjoying their freedom and independence. These self-dependent young who believe marriage as a burden, are economically independent, they think that they have a clear thought of physical relations, just like a natural desire. For such desires, the girls and boys belonging to this class start staying together under the concept of 'Living-in-relations '. These young persons who don't believe in marriage, in no time, entangle with lot of troubles. These relations do not have any commitments, devotion, and when there is an ego clash with each other, and then these relations without any sanctity of society become burden leading to separation and a cause for mental distress. It has taken some thousands of years for man to evolve from an animal to a civilized human, developing his emotional and societal needs to build relationships for his personal growth and family, how can the act of sex sans an emotional security be truly satisfying' Physical relation involves emotional bondage. We see around us married couples really struggle to make their marriage successful because they are committed, while the bond which is without the sanctity of marriage, it is assumed, will definitely be full of problems only. Finally, these premarital relations may give a short-lived sense of joy through sexual release or a feeling of independence by rebelling against the traditional values, they do not confer permanency that the institution of marriage does. Premarital sexual relations also occur when people cross their marriageable age and are unable to overlook their physical needs. One may argue that for an adult, the sexual satisfaction is one's personal affair or an ecstasy arising from the union of two bodies yet the Indian society does not sanctify this argument without the institution of marriage. It is true that this institution, in itself is quite old and needs some change and a considerate attitude. For example the orthodox and tradition bound society must accept love marriages.  At last, these traditions do work and provides security and confidence to children, the traditions, which are inculcated at childhood, parent's awareness and friend's behavior, and these children do not look outside for any prohibited happiness. But extremeness always makes opposite impression, difference among sex, keeping them apart becomes a cause of dangerous anxiety. At this stage, the sex education, at the right time through the right medium, serves the positive role. With the combination of considerate liberal approach and keeping the traditional values in mind we can restrict such pre-marital sexual relations to a certain extent. This requires cooperation of the society, parents, educational institutions, media and even the compatibility of youngsters.  The second issue is the birth of a child arising from premarital sex. This is not desired or acceptable even in the tribal society of any part of the world. Even among the animals, before giving birth to their children, both parents bring up the children together, till they become self-dependent. Single motherhood is not only unnatural but suicidal too. Even if the mother is well-versed to rear her children, she cannot provide completeness in the absence of the father. The unmarried mother can't do justice with herself and the child.  With various discussions and debates, these topics will always remain filled with controversies and will be alive forever. Prohibited but lustrous the premarital sex may be, it cannot remove the values of the institution of marriage. Though the marriage is an old institution but it has a definite scientific value of stability, physical satisfaction, emotional attachments and feeling of security (Manisha Kulshreshtha, 2001). | | | In a conservative country such as the Philippines, the view on pre-marital sex has been always something negative.  In a typical Filipino family, talking about sexual matters is even considered a taboo and the topic initiator in a household would most probably receive reprimand or scrutiny from the parents–even when we know that the parents could also have been deviant kids during their young adulthood years. Uncomfortable hypocritical situation, she has 8 siblings of different ages and most of them are either adults or approaching adulthood.  Sexual intercourse being an object of human interest never slips out of their topic bucket list among the siblingry.  Once their parents heard their discussions about sexual intercourse and the dominant speaker in that discussion received reprimand from their parents.  It was my friend.  Their parents went on a litany of things to be done before sexual intercourse and they even stated its limitations when it comes to age–that when you are as old as they are, you do not get to do it anymore because of blah blah blah about morality and shiz. The ironic thing is that, their house helper always confides with them about the moans, groans and bed shrieks that she hears on some nights that their children aren’t at home.  What would moan groans and bed shrieks imply, ladies and gentlemen' This just proves that the idea of Filipinos when it comes to this primordial necessity of the human race is facedly negative.  It is something always frowned on and disencouraged by our parents or by the adults in our society when in fact, they themselves do it.  Parents would disregard the ideas of hypocrisy just to instill that sexual intercourse before marriage is wrong. I acknowledge the fact that there are so many negative repercussions of pre-marital sex.  One of the very apparent consequences of this forbidden act is the rising number of children who are bearing children.  Pre-marital sex is also considered tantamount to the possibilities of unprotected sex.  In effect, sexually transmitted infections can be acquired in the process. But in the context of Filipino youths who are in long-term relationships with their partners, I believe that pre-marital intercourse should be at least accepted.  I used the term “accepted” because number one, such activity in long-term relationships are already inevitable and number two, even such activity in long-term relationships is still considered by the idealistic individuals as something bad and immoral. I see a major advantage and benefit of pre-marital intercourse in long-term relationships.  Following common sense, long-term relationships are the kind that have the highest chances of tying the knot in the future.  These couples in the future, would live their own lives and contribute to the prolonging of the human species.  Following common sense again, married life is not all about procreation.  It is about a mutual bond that is consisted of mutual effort, love, respect and most especially, fidelity in able to work.  This is the commonly known mechanism of marriage.  Unknown to many, mutual chemistry in ALL ASPECTS is also needed to keep the fire going.  If a couple has stayed together for a long term, then chances are the chemistry is almost flawless.  One aspect that needs chemistry too is the chemistry in bed. Many married couples in different countries file divorces and annulments due to sexual dissatisfaction and/or sexual incompatibility.  Let me tell you that it has been statistically proven that through the years, an increasing number of women have been counting the said reasons as their rationale to terminate their marriages.  So this is enough proof that men are not the only gender wanting for great sex with their partners, women too.  Due to this, many families get broken and many children live in unbroken homes.  Some may shrug off this fact and contend that living in a broken home is something workable.  As a child development major, I beg to differ for it has been proven in many studies that children in broken homes tend to have many difficulties in growing up, social interaction and managing their own married lives in the future.  The effect of broken homes and of a broken marriage is irreversible and not everyone is lucky to be able to move on and start a new life afterwards. Given this context, I say that pre-marital sex amongst long-term relationships has major benefits.  It is a way to test if two people are perfectly compatible when it comes to this department.  I know many people will raise their eyebrows on this for marriage is not merely about sex.  Yes, this may be true but sexual dissatisfaction is the number one cause of cheating between married couples.  It is human nature to seek for better options if you are dissatisfied with something.  We can see this in many aspects of daily living like food, clothing brand choice and even your shampoo choice. Do not get me wrong, though.  Pre-marital sex for long-term couples is not like a trial and you will eventually dump the person if you feel that you are sexually incompatible.  It is not only a leeway for you to be able to do some spelunking and testing if you click.  For me, it is a venue for you to be able to work out together as a couple and be able to come up with something that you would mutually enjoy.  As you do it in perfect romantic occasions, you would be able to master each others’ preferences thus making your bond tighter and stronger. For the religious ones who would say that pre-marital sex is putting a smear on your morality and being sinful to the Higher Power, I believe that God is more complex than your view of Him.  Pre-marital sex done with the right purposes fueled by passionate and unconditional love for another person is something that even God would understand.  If you believe that the Higher Being knows absolutely everything, then He would understand for He knows everything beyond the surface-level definitions of things.  Besides, I think God would prefer testing the waters first before causing a family’s wreck. But of course, every person engaging into such activity must be responsible enough to be aware of the biological consequences of intercourse, and that is procreation.  For me it is justified to do it but if you are not yet married, do your best to perform protection methods that would never make your life harder (Pinoy Teen). This is an important subject — especially today. Young people (and older folks, too) are bombarded with the world's (Satan's) standards of morality, or immorality. The values and moral standards which were endorsed by most Americans in years past are now ridiculed and/or ignored by many. Teaching on sexual purity before and after marriage is no longer held before young people as a law of God nor even an ideal goal to strive for. So-called sexual freedom is flaunted as the norm among teenagers and adults and often those are ridiculed who expect and encourage young people to remain virgins until marriage. God's law is plain: "Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body; but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body" (I Corinthians 6:18). God, our Creator, knows our needs and what is best for us, his creation. He is not a cosmic killjoy. Behind each negative Bible command are two positive principles. One is to protect us, the other is to provide for us. God has "good" planned for us and does not want us to do something that will bring pain to us and to others. To illustrate this, consider an Owner's Manual that comes with an automobile. I may want to change the oil once a year. That takes less time, and would seem to cost less. But the Owner's Manual says to change the oil every 5,000 miles. Now, if I have good sense, I understand that the manufacturer knows better how to care for it than I do. Following their advice will save me much grief and expense. And we have also come with an Owner's Manual — the Bible. It may seem good to enjoy the pleasure of sex before marriage, but the "Owner's Manual" disagrees. So, whose judgment should we consider — ours or God's' God's motivation in dealing with us is love. "God is love" (I John 4:16). He is the author of love, and he knows all about it. God is not anti-sex. He created sex and said it was good, but he gave rules with it. Rules in any realm are to protect us and give us freedom to enjoy the activity we are engaging in — whether it be sports or whatever. Can you imagine a ball game without rules, where everyone does just what they want to do' We have one basic rule from God with reference to sexual activity. That is, "Wait until marriage." Look at God's design and plan for our happiness. When we have faith in a powerful and all-wise God, we obey without always understanding the reason behind the command. But in this area of sexual conduct, God has provided evidence that his way is best in words and principles taught throughout the Bible.Consider four areas of life that will be greatly affected by our choices of sexual behavior. Look first at the effects of unchastity, so that we can know how to deal with these consequences. There are physical, spiritual, emotional, and relational effects of an immoral life-style. Physical Effects We saw in I Corinthians 6:18 that sex before marriage is a sin against the body. Sinning against the body means losing respect for your body, as well as the body of the one you are involved with. Once respect is lost, it becomes easier to indulge in promiscuous sex. Losing respect then leads to a warped view of love and centers the definition of love around the physical. The emotional needs which God created are not met in casual sex but in the loving commitment of a mate. Only in marriage is it possible for sexual relationships to reaffirm the dignity and uniqueness of each sex partner. Sex combined with love in marriage makes us want to give to our mate — not take. Waiting as God commands gives peace of mind which affects our physical health. We don't experience the stress of worrying about unwanted pregnancies, or Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) that could kill or cripple us or our children. Now, of course, the "safe sex" campaign across our country fools many into a false peace of mind. Birth control methods are sometimes unreliable, and the high rate of failure for condoms is not understood among many teens. At best, among those who are sexually active, 1 in 6 condoms will fail, and at worst 1 in 3. That's the same or worse odds as in Russian Roulette, which is a pretty stupid game. And of course the pill offers no protection whatsoever against STDs. Fifty years ago, teens were warned about two STDs (called "venereal diseases" then): syphilis and gonorrhea. What has our newfound sexual freedom brought' There are now over 50 STDs, and AIDS is not the only one that kills. And others can cripple and/or make life miserable. (Herpes is not a picnic.) Some cause birth defects that pass a parent's foolish decision on to an innocent child. Furthermore, that sperm that causes pregnancy can get through a tiny tear or pinhole in a condom. But the virus that causes AIDS is up to 300 to 400 times smaller than the sperm. So what does that same tear or hole look like to the AIDS virus' It looks like a train tunnel! Dr. Koop, former U.S. Surgeon General, doubts that there will ever be an AIDS cure. It is a virus, and we have never cured any virus, not even the common cold. And do you know about cervical cancer, a disease that is proven to be more prevalent among sexually active teenage girls' Spiritual Effects God blesses purity. "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God" (Matthew 5:8). "Watch your heart with all diligence, for from it spring the issues of life" (Proverbs 4:23). We are to be "wise in what is good and innocent in what is evil" (Romans 16:19). "Abstain from sexual immorality ... God has called us for purity" (I Thessalonians 4:3-5,7). Clearly God's word forbids any type of sex outside of marriage. There are spiritual consequences any time we disobey God. "God will judge fornicators and adulterers" (Hebrews 13:4). Sexual sins brought destruction to Sodom and Gomorrah in Genesis 19. Many Bible characters committed sexual sins and were judged by God. Great trouble and grief came to Lot and his daughters, to Shechem, Reuben, Judah and Tamar, Samson, and David. Judgment from God may be immediate as in the death of David's son or come in future consequences we will face. Medical science may eliminate or lessen some consequences of my sin, but it cannot remove my accountability before God. Sin separates us from God (Isaiah 59:1-2; Hosea 5:6). It causes us to be a bad influence on others, both Christians and non-Christians. Sexual purity is a way to show respect for others and to confirm their dignity as human beings. It is impossible to show someone the love of God while engaging in immorality with that person. When we maintain sexual purity, we can be channels of God's love and can accurately represent him to others. Patience is a fruit of the Spirit, and "against such there is no law" (Galatians 5:23). Waiting for something builds excitement, as in waiting for a birthday. Sex is something we wait our whole life for until we finally partake of it. A godly character results from patience and perseverance. When we wait for sex till the proper time and place, our character is developed and self-esteem is built. We develop self-control which is required to live a godly life. Waiting builds trust, and God's plan is for marriage to be built on a basic trust factor. Sexual involvement almost always wipes out trust in a relationship. In surveys conducted, it is found that "sexual intimacy produces more broken relationships than strengthened ones." Emotional Effects God's plan gives protection from being put on a performance basis. When put on a performance basis with another person, one is accepted only if he or she acts or does something the way the other person wants. They are respected not for who they are, but for what they do. Their value and dignity is lost. A boy says, "I love you if you will have sex with me" or "because you are pretty," rather than "I love you." That is conditional love, and is worthless for building a committed relationship. Without the committed bonds of marriage, sex is inherently a selfish act done for personal satisfaction or gain. We must continue to please for the relationship to continue and that leaves one in a constant state of insecurity. God protects us from being put on a performance basis by reserving sex for the commitment of marriage. Are you aware of the various studies that show that sexual satisfaction is much greater in marriage than in uncommitted relationships' Why is it this way' Could it be that God knew what he was doing when he created us, and ordained the marriage relationship as the place for fulfillment' The emotional baggage that often comes with premarital sex includes sexual dysfunctions in marriage. Many end up in counseling or therapy to deal with problems related to "teenage" sex. Studies have shown that premarital sex also increases the rate of cheating after marriage. Teens don't know that when they are young, but God knew it when he gave the rules in his "Owner's Manual." Guilt is another consequence of violating God's standard of chastity until marriage. This has long-term effects on future relationships in marriage, and may haunt and affect a person longer than any other consequence. To have the sex act linked with guilt in one's emotions because of premarital activity, causes the joy intended by God for husband and wife to be robbed and clouded. For example, a couple I know has been married over 50 years, and sex has never had any meaning for her. Premarital sex did its damage. Guilt is an awareness of having transgressed a standard of right and wrong. Or it may be just a lingering doubt of thinking that some act was wrong. Our society is plagued by those two kinds of guilt. The first is a moral guilt, which Christians are subject to, which tells us specifically when we have stepped outside God's boundaries of conduct. It is a conscious awareness of specific transgressions. The other kind of guilt might be called a floating sense of guilt. One psychologist says "It is indeed amazing that in a fundamentally irreligious culture as ours, the sense of guilt should be so widespread and deep-rooted as it is." This floating guilt he spoke of comes from a society that says there is no absolute right and wrong. Rather than producing freedom as many claim they are seeking, such are in a constant turmoil. "Are these things I'm doing right or wrong'" These people have no standard, therefore no direction in their lives and are constantly adrift. Yes, they are free — as free as a ship at sea without a rudder. Christians have the Bible which gives direction and guidance to lives and tells of God's character (La vista church of Christ). Chapter III Research Methodology Research Method: The methods use for the success of this research proposal, includes statistical survey from the students of the South Western University. We handed them survey papers that gave us the answer to why premarital sex should not be done in universities, specifically the South Western University. As we conduct our survey, we observe how students answer, if they take it seriously or not. Or if they are aware what premarital sex can bring them. Our proposal is a good way of opening the eyes of students that are engaged to premarital sex. With this generation of vices, being practical to our healthy life is a major key to surpass diseases from different roots. Having a survey as the basis of our research, solid results can determine the effects of premarital sex to the students of South Western University. Research Procedure: A questionnaire survey was carried out among 100 students in South Western University to evaluate their student life with regards to this topic. Each of the participants was given copies and had them answer the paper. Within 5 minutes, they can finish answering it. When we ask each if they were interested to answer survey questions, they easily agree due to the topic. I expected they would be ashamed but I was wrong. In less than 5 hours, we were finish having the survey. The results were a compliment to others. Students engaged to premarital sex: | Students not engaged to premarital sex: | Students who were dropouts because of premarital sex / teenage pregnancy: | 60 out of 100 students say they are engaged to premarital sex. 50 students are men. | 40 out of 100 students say they are not engaged to premarital sex. 37 students are women. | There are some who say that when they get pregnant at an early age, they have nothing left to do but to stop from their studies. And later on, if lucky go back to school again. | Research Respondents: The respondents of our research are the students of South Western University. With their aid we gathered information that solidifies our research. And also, we asked random persons about being pregnant at a young age. Research Environment: The South Western University is a learning Institution for learners. Its environment surely affects the students mentally, physically, emotionally, and sexually. Being a lash green university, students feel the peace and serenity, but the people surrounding them are different persons from different sectors of life. First are the rich and powerful students who are dominant in all aspects, this affects normal students’ mentality. Second are the gangster students who are focusing not to their studies but to their life with sex, trouble, and camaraderie. Lastly, are the normal students who are neutral to what is happening and is willing to do what is told. To simplify, the environment is imbalance with different kinds of students dwelling in the university. They greatly change the aura once they are in. In Partial Fulfillment of the Requirements In English II Submitted by: Jose Miguel D. Bien M.C. Lataza Jehiel Lastimado Mr. Rafols Submitted to: Ms.