Raising_Teenagers_Can_Offen_Be_a_Challenge

Raising Teenagers can often be a Challenge “Parenting teenagers is not easy; it takes creativity, determination, and patience’s. Parenting is a tough journey, but you do not have to take it alone”, stated by C. Botto. Although there is no easy way to handle the change in your teen’s behavior and there is no magic spell to change your teen behavior, you can achieve the same results by learning how to deal with and approach your teenager. Parenting can be challenging, awarding, and it is filled with many responsibly. Parents of teenagers may have the toughest job around dealing with their ups and downs, trying to handle your teenage attitudes and bad behaviors. Adolescence is the life stage that bridges childhood and adulthood. In general, it represents the second decade of life. Children relay on mostly the judgments of others to learn how to make responsible decisions independently, because we live in a society in which young people are confronted with the everyday risk with sex, drugs, alcohol, and violence. It can be a difficult transition for both teenagers and their parents. Parents can do many things to foster their children’s talents and skills while guiding them though a healthy development. Several ideas that can make a difference in the lives of their children are spending time with them, helping them gain a sense of self-confidence while working to set their goals with them, letting them know that their education is important to them and knowing where your children are and who they are hanging out with. Adolescent years are a trying times one filled with melodrama, high intrigue, and many unhealthy habits. However, parents have the potential to make their teen lives better by showing their teens that they do care about him or her. Many parents approach raising teenagers as an ordeal. Opening a new path of communication, reconnecting with the child you love. Showing your teen that you really care is essential to building a strong supportive relationship with your son or daughter. The hardest part of parenting teenagers is to understand how they see life and where their thoughts and ideas are coming from. In an article on a book called “The Good Enough Teen” by Brad Sachs, who is a psychologist and a parent of three stated, parents increasing frustrated by his or she teen’s because of his or her teen’s behavior and missed expectations. Brad also goes on saying that the primary philosophy is that bad behavior is not administered as a way of making a parent miserable; it is a natural step on the path of maturity. Parents should set limits for their children, by compromising things with him in order that it makes both of us happy. Brad Sachs writing is clear and personal and his thinking is grounded and insightful. As I read an article of respecting teens privacy, I found every good resource’s and advice in dealing with teen privacy. As it started, some parents have a very hard time with this one. Thinking everything their children do is their business and they should know everything that is going on with their children. Giving you teenager some privacy is very helpful in your relationship. Just as you do not tell your children everything you do, so things are consider to be left alone, so you and your children have your own privacy. If you notice warning signs of trouble you can invade your child's privacy until you get to the heart of the problem. Otherwise, it is a good idea alone your children to have some type of privacy, such as your children’s room, text, and phone calls with their friends. Knowing where your children are going, when they will be returning, what they are doing and who they are with, not knowing every detail in your children’s day to day basis. Start with trusting your children by letting them know you trust him or her. If your children break that trust he or she may enjoy fewer freedoms until they can prove to their parents they can be trusted again. After two years of struggling with my own teenager son, I set out to understand the minds of teenagers to create a better relationship with my teenager’s results. After seeking many organizations in helping with my son’s behavior I found it to be very helpful to myself and my son. After researching for help here in our own town, I found many places that could help out and give him a better way of dealing with any problems he was going though. I learned how to stop struggling with my son who was disrespectful. I wanted to put an end to being frustrated and exhausted from arguing with him constantly. Enrolling my son in the Baton Rouge Young Marines that is a youth education and service program for boys and girls, ages eight through completion of high school. The Young Marines promotes the mental, moral, and physical development of its members. The program focuses on character building, leadership, and promotes a healthy, drug-free lifestyle. Teaching kids the right way of doing things in a more effective way. They offered many activities to show them they could be more productive in their lives. Encouraging your children get involved in fun safe and fulfilling activity’s for example, enrolling into an extracurinium activities like playing team sports, arts, volunteering in a community and joining a youth group at church. It will give them the sense of accomplishment while connecting them with positive peers and adult leaders. As, I read the article from Heidi she stated and I agree. “As kids progress through the teen years, you'll notice a slowing of the highs and lows of adolescence. And, eventually, they'll become independent, responsible, communicative young adults. So remember the motto of many parents with teens: We're going through this together, and we'll come out of it together!” The problems we deal with on a daily basis makes our teenagers problems seem trivial. The problems that our teenagers face every day are just important to our teenagers as the problems we face. Teenagers have their own world, and their own culture. It is very different from the one you remember. Read books about teenagers. Opening the lines of communication as soon as possible, the better chance you will have in keeping their mind open to communicating with you through the teen years. As you think back on your own teen years, remembering all the struggles you had with your parents. Always expect some mood changes in typically children, and just be prepared for more conflicts as he or she matures as an adult. Parents as you come to terms about what is going to happen you can cope with it better. The more you know, the better you can prepare yourself in helping your children. References: H. Salle (Updated 2011) Retrieved from www://kidshealth.org › Parents › Growth and Development, B. Sach (July 2010) Retrieved from http://BradSach.com “The Good Enough Teen” C. Botto (Updated May 1 2011) Retrieved from http://Parentingateenager.net “Struggling with Teen Behavior” (May 2, 2000) White House Conference for Teenagers Retrieved from University of Phoenix Library M. Spellings (Revised 2005) Helping your Child though Early Adolescence Retrieved from http://www2.ed.gov/parents/academic/help/adolescence/adolescence.pdf