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The problems of Miscommunication Sarah Huntley COM 200 Interpersonal Communication Instructors: Shannon Corbett-Perez 9/9/2011 Miscommunication is happens when communicating become unclear between two parties. These situations ideas are not translated the way they were intended to. These problems occur when the receiving party does not ask for further instructions on a task. They also happen when the giving party believes the other party should already know what is needed to be done. Miscommunication is not just between strangers but it also occurs between close friends, family, and spouses. The article “Close relationships sometimes mask poor communication” talks about how being close to someone just might be the reason the relationship might have communicating problems. I agree with the article. I believe that when you become comfortable with someone you believe they should know what you mean at all times. A study given to twenty four married couples shows that couples can misunderstand each other over the littlest things. The study author Kenneth Savitsky states that a husband and wife had a different meaning to the same phrase “It’s getting hot in here”. Whereas the wife meant she wished it was cooler the husband took it as a sexual gesture. Some may think this type of miscommunication only happens between strangers, when really it happens to people in close relationships because of the bound they believe they have. Having a miscommunication with strangers is very common but one may believe their friends or family should know them well enough to know what they mean. There has been many times when I have had a miscommunication with co-workers. Which to me is normal but when I have a miscommunication with a family member I feel as though we have lost base with each other. Growing up with a cousin that becomes more of a best friend one may believe they know everything there is to know about each other. In the past I have confined in a cousin named Tyffani about liking someone. I continued to tell Tyffani that I didn’t want to tell the person I liked them. My best friend took that as a go ahead for her to tell the person I liked them. After finding out that my best friend released this information without my permission I was upset. I believed my best friend let my secret out to be funny and I decide I would not talk to her again. Later down the line she confessed to me that she thought when I told her that I couldn’t tell them that I was being shy and asking her to do it for me. Miscommunication can cause serious problem in relationships. I believe the best way to make sure miscommunication never occurs is to be clear about what you mean. Regardless of how long you may have known someone or how well you think they may know you. Most of the time miscommunication happens when people try to get something done fast and rush. Trying to fix a situation when there has been a miscommunication may be hard. If the situation is big or important it could ruin a relationship. I believe the best way to fix a miscommunication is by communicating more. The more you talk about what happen and why it happen is the best way to making sure it doesn’t happen again. “Interpersonal communication is an important component of building and maintaining these relationships. It helps us meet needs for belonging and for acceptance and enables us to share values and principles, which are the foundation of human society.” As said in the passage above being able to communicate is something human society lives to do. Without the troubles of miss communication we as people would not have evolved in to the people we are today. Miscommunication may seem difficult in the beginning it paves a way for growth in which we learn how to communicate more with on another References 1) Close relationships sometimes mask poor communication. (2011, January 24). Retrieved from http://health.usnews.com/health-news/family-health/brain-and-behavior/articles/2011/01/24/close-relationships-sometimes-mask-poor-communication 2) Sole, K. S. (2013). Making connections. San Diego, CA : Bridgepoint Education, Inc