Masking_Poor_Communication

Masking Poor Communication COM200 Masking Poor Communication One of the challenges that most close relationship seem to have to some extent, is poor communication. As people become closer in their relationships according to the article “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication” (U.S. News & World Report, 2011) state “That closeness can lead people to overestimate how well they communicate” I can totally relate to that statement my wife and I have been married for twelve years and been in a relationships for seventeen years the closer we got in our relationship the communication between us became more critical. If you have been in a close relationship for any length of time, you have either been on the giving or receiving end of miscommunication, probably more than once. Communicating unclearly or mistakenly often results in arguments or mistrust between friends, husbands and wives, brothers and sisters and so on. Sometimes in order for close relationship communication to get better people need to step back and focus on the basics of communication, such as listening to the person that is talking without any interruption. I had a miscommunication with my older sister before because I assumed she understood me. It was June 1995 my sister twenty-seventh birth day, as the celebration was going on her husband her boyfriend at that time propose to her. It was a very excited time for her and everybody at the party. We were drinking, eating, and dancing. During the party she and I had a conversation about the wedding. She wanted me to be part of the wedding party; I told her yes of course you are my only sister, but please do not pair me up with any of your ugly friends because I am too sexy and fly for some of them. We both just laugh and went our separate way. At that time I was in the Marines stationed in Norfolk Virginia and my sister lived in Long Island New York. The wedding was schedule to take place on October 28, 1995 in Long Island. During the past months leading to wedding I kept asking her about the girl I am supposed to walk with, she kept naming a bunch of different girls every time I asked her. The day of my sister’s wedding I was usher not a groomsmen. I was kind a hurt because I wanted to be a groomsmen in my only sister wedding. After she got from her honeymoon we had along talk about why I was an usher instead of a groomsman. She told me I said I did not want to walk with anybody because I was too sexy and fly and none of her friends are worthy to walk with me. We must of argument for hours because I kept telling that was not what I said about being part of the wedding party. When we both look back at the situation we never really had an effective communication between us in order to share our thoughts, feelings, and experiences. I can make sure this kind of miscommunication does not happen in the future is to allow the other person to share their thoughts and feelings. As stated in our text book “Effective communication is meaning that is shared with others so that all parties come to a mutual understanding about what the words mean. To achieve shared meaning, we must listen carefully to what others say, ask questions to ensure that we understand what the words mean to the other person, and provide feedback to confirm that we understand the other person correctly”(Sole, 2011). The things I can do to make my communication more clear I have to listen carefully to what the other person is saying. I have to ask questions to make sure I understand what the words mean to the other person, and give feed back to make sure w under the other person correctly. Good communication is the key of close relationships. As people get closer there is more opportunity for poor communication to happen between them. References Anonymous, Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication. (2011, January). U.S. News & World Report,1.  Retrieved April 16, 2012, from ProQuest Telecommunications. (Document ID: 2270370591). Sole, K. (2011).Making connections: Understanding interpersonal communication. San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education, Inc. (https://content.ashford.edu)