Is_It_Love_

Yes. I do have checkpoints to validate if what I feel is "true love" or not... hahaha I am a thinker, that is my fate. My 6 Love-Validation Checkpoints: 1. THINK: are you in-love' or in-love with LOVE.. Some people watch too many romantic comedy flicks or read too much romance novels that they become in love with the idea of the love portrayed in such media. So... think. are you in love' or are you just wishing to relive a romance series that you just watched. 2. are you 'in-love' with your IDEA-of-that-person or really in love with the PERSON' We all have our "types." This is usually the pattern or traits we look for people that makes us attracted to them. Then we have our dreams/fantasies/wishes/hopes that a person with these traits, looks like this, talks like this-- also has these traits... etc. etc. we tend to build up the idea so much that... when we meet someone near to the pattern/silhouette that we've built up in our heads-- regardless if it's true or not... THEN we make the mistake of pasting all our ideals and hopes to someone we think could "fit the part." But then, at the end of the day-- we have to ask: are we really in love with who that person really is' or are we in love with who we've built that person (the idea of that person) in our heads' 3. are you ready with yourself' -- is he'! Some people are so in rush with love that regardless if he/she is ready or not-- the forcibly rush into it... if it's true love, then the ring/label can wait. if it's something that you immediately want committed because you might lose him/her without the contract/label... then again, you have to think. Love is not like land that you stake immediate claim over other wise you might lose ownership. It should be like a flower you let blossom... a seed you plant, water, take of until it becomes a tree. 4. picture yourself in 5 years or so.. do u see him with you' Some people are just looking for a quick fix mostly because they already want a boyfriend/girlfriend-- either because of loneliness or peer-pressure... this shouldn't be the case. If you love someone, you love them-- regardless if you're lonely or not... regardless if you're just pressured to have a companion or not. 5. are you 100% convinced' or are you just forcing yourself to be convinced' :) Some people get courted and wooed so convincingly and dashingly that just because the courtship was grand and expensive-- they force themselves the feeling... obviously.. at the end of the day it shouldn't matter if you get the million dollar ring or not.. it shouldn't matter if he goes to your doorstep with flowers everyday... nor should it matter if you're parents fixed you up... and the contract has already been drafted... because at the end of the day-- love should be between you and him... and not you, the flowers and perks + him. 6. last one: do you need him' want him' or are you just lonely without a 'him'... Loneliness/neediness creates a feeling of want, then we just settle for the easy one there... but then, at the end of the day-- you have to evaluate... do you really love him, and want and need him because you love him... or are you just lonely' and you settled for him' infatuation, frustration, desperation, and true love are ALL different and yet confusingly similar things.. :) hard to differentiate most of the times...