How_You_Came_to_Be_Who_You_Are_Today

How you came to be who you are Have you ever took the time to think of what influences as a child made you who you are as an adult today. As a child our subconscious mind can be greatly influenced by what we encounter as we grow and learn. Whether it is our siblings, peers, teachers, or parents that we learn our own values from we learn to accept them as children. With this in mind why do these values at such a young age seem to have such an impact on us as adults' This is because our childhood influences are stepping stones to our common beliefs of what we perceive in our mind through behavioral conditioning and in later life, when we encounter new information it is then compared to beliefs that we had learned previously at a younger age. For example, a father may influence their children's views about fatherhood through his example displayed around the children. If that father displays love and care towards their children then the children are likely to take on this behavior when they have their own children, because they are hard wired to act that way because it is the only way they know how too. Parents however are not the only influences of our early beliefs, teachers may also be very influential as well. For example, if a teacher repeatedly tells a student that he is stupid and will never be a productive individual, they are now likely to believe this and have issues with self esteem later in life. However it is possible that our values can be changed if new information gathered goes against our original values. For example, if the student with the low self esteem was then told repeatedly that they are a very good student, which might raise the student's self esteem. This shows that we can change our values into adulthood, but depends on how well the new information is interpreted. If it turns out this new information gathered though is less reliable, we may in turn reject it and revert back to our childhood values. The problem is that the new information gathered goes against our beliefs, so our minds automatically become biased against information that deviates from our normal way of life. With that being said it doesn't mean our values can't be altered, we just have to push harder towards making more open-minded judgments. Because most of our values come from our parents, changing our values can be a slow process as it is difficult to remove or modify the beliefs that have been deeply ingrained into our minds for many years of being raised a certain way. Although many people say that they are nothing like their parents, in truth they are more likely than not to take on many of the values displayed by their parents later as an adult. Because we are completely dependent on our parents as children, if we are successfully raised we acquire many characteristics like confidence, optimism, and self esteem. However, different parenting styles affect these areas greatly based on how effective the parenting is. Just because a child is treated with love and respect it doesn't mean it is always done in the right way, which can negatively affect a child's self image. So it wasn't only the things your parents did to or for you, but the manner in which it was carried out. Sometimes we never know why our parents treat us the way they do, but they most likely do some of these things they do because they were once treated the same way by their parents as children. So these passed down values from generation to generation is the key point in understanding why we often grow up to be quite similar to their parents. Even though some people may not like to admit it. When we tend to take the time to think of how we were as children we can see many of the aspects and values that we acquired as a child are as much a part of us today as it was at that time. we also realize that not all the values and beliefs picked up as a child are not necessarily ones to live by but for the better to change in order to have a better perspective of how you carry things out in life. This is why in order to fully understand ourselves, we must first understand the people that created our minds. Our parents.