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How to Solve My Day To Day Life Problem with Stress Barbara Wise GEN 200 6/20/2011 Brenda Torres The problem I have in my day to day life that I would like to solve would be stress. With my job and family, every day I am under so much stress. I have so many different things going on at one time like projects; make readies, and assignments going on throughout the day. I just need more time through the day so I can have time for myself. It never seems possible with the twenty different owners I have to visit or take calls from daily. All the owners have to know every minute of tasks that are going on through the day. I don’t understand why they just couldn’t call me once a week or see me once a week. To top that I have so many tenant’s that feel like I’m their counselor, mother, and their physiatrist. The tenant’s come to me with their personal problems. Where does the line draw between me being their landlord and their friend' I’m always there for my tenant’s, I have tried to draw the line with them on their personal matters, but they don’t seem to get it. Then I have employees that have a lot of issues, they don’t want to work. I have fired so many people and hired new ones, but there always seems to be a problem with whoever I hire. It’s like no one has morals any more, everybody wants a free ride. When does this madness stop' I know how to manage my time and get all my projects and assignments done in a timely manner. I just don’t have enough time to babysit my employees or residents. When it comes to my personal life and time I just don’t have any free time and if I do I’m so tired and stressed out from the day’s work. Dealing with the owners at all hours of the day even when I am at home. The same goes for tenants and employees. They feel like its ok to call me for anything at any time. I try and set boundaries, but they don’ seem to work. So I’m going to have to take a better look at my life and see if it’s worth me staying in this field of work. What I’m going to need to do to help reduce my stress is to plan my time and day out. Make a place for everything like employees time with me, tenant’s time with me, and owner’s time with me. The first thing I need to do is determine when I will work, and only work during those hours. If work spills over, I need to learn self-discipline to say, “I can pick this up in the morning” and learn to say “no” to my employees, tenants, and the owners. That is one thing about me I’m always trying to please everyone but me. I know I have to change the way I look at things throughout the day, and look at the bigger picture so I don’t let things get to me. The most common objection to this idea is that emergencies are constantly coming up. If emergencies are constantly cropping up, I need to do one of two things: Improve my personal productivity and get my act together or manage my clients, my residents and my employees better. If I can do one of those then emergencies suddenly crop less often when they know my boundaries. Next I would have to close all lines of communication when my work day is done. That means turning off all phones. I also know that my problem with work balance, life balance and stress ultimately came from my desire to earn more income, but I have fallen into a trap of sacrificing my life for money. I really need to re-evaluate my life and work, and ask myself is it really worth it. I need to constitute balance. How much time needs to be set aside for work and all the problems that need to be solved after hours' I also need to set aside how much time needs to be reserved for myself. Sitting here writing about this topic has made me really take a look at my life and how I can possibly have less stress in my line of work. I know it is going to be a challenge, but I am willing to try and make a difference on the impact of my work schedule to loosen up the stress level I have on a day to day basis. I am going to set boundaries with all the owners, all the employees, and the residents and I’m going to stick to it. No more answering my cell phone after hours, let it go to voice mail and check it, and if it’s a real emergency then I will return the call, if it’s not an emergency then it can wait till morning. I know eventually I will be changing careers. So for the time being I will do my best to set guide lines for myself. To stop trying to please everyone and take more time for me.