Enagaing_in_Relationships_with_Married_Men

What makes one ,despite knowing right from wrong, decide to go against every moral instilled in their heart and mind since early childhood' Love is a strong and powerful emotion that picks no particular person to receive it, nor give it. What pushes someone to take what is not theirs to begin with' When a man tell you he loves you and his whole world is “you and only you”, it triggers something inside that is strong and hard to resist. To find out he is married after a bonding relationship exists between the two of you is earth-shattering . How could someone this close to you lie and deceive in such a way' Now it is time to decide if to let him go and how to even begin. Morally, you know what is right and expected; emotionally, the heart is dying inside and urges you to hold on at any cost. When found in a situation as such, does one follow the heart and fight for their true soul mate' Do you throw down your sword and accept that he isn’t going to leave her and move on even though your heart can’t' In the very beginning, a whirlwind romance blossoms where everything is total bliss and it seems as though nothing could go wrong. He is so exhilarating and makes every day the best of your life so far. On a cold drive in from work one morning, you get the phone call, from her, the one who he really belongs to. Reality suddenly slaps you hard and it is hard to even breathe. What drives a man to cheat' What is it they are looking for that is not with them at home' And better yet, how does he share every intimate moment with you and surround his whole being with you only to take it away in an instant' One has to wonder just what it is a man is looking for when he decides to step outside of his marriage. Those who study married couples say men cheat due to feeling as though something is missing in their primary relationship. One therapist believes that men are not getting a certain attention or intimacy they’re looking for with the wife they have. It is found in one study that 21% of men who have ever been married have had sex at least once with someone other than their wife. Marriage is presented as a standing commitment between two people, binding them in a lifetime of joined companionship. Has that joined commitment become less important in this ever changing society' After experiencing the devastation infidelity can leave behind, there is a yearning to understand what reasons could exist to lead a man into another woman’s arms. Some feel that “variety” plays a substantial part in men choosing another. Are men just biologically programmed to attempt mating with as many different women as possible ' How long after an extended “mating season” does a man come to that life changing revolution that maybe love and friendship are suddenly more important than instant gratification of sexual pleasure' Perhaps the primitive instinct of a man to be a hunter and gatherer never leave the generation-only now the need is to hunt and gather new women. What is it that makes him feel as though having a wife and choosing to have this separate sexual intimacy with another woman is completely two separate things; that there are no connecting ties to lead to guilty feelings of betrayal' When looking at society in a whole, how do we accept infidelity now compared to 40 to 50 years ago' Surprisingly, in one study, it calculates that in the 1970’s, 63% of men and 73% of women stated that infidelity is “always wrong.” In our current decade, 78% of men and 84% of women believe that infidelity is “always wrong.” Then how do we explain the soaring numbers of infidelity cases heard on TV and in your own local neighborhood' Have people strayed away from decades of instilled moral values regarding fidelity and commitment between two people' Maybe the increasing desire for instant gratification in our world today itself increases the need to fulfill those sexual urges as well. Perhaps communication breakdown between couples is to blame, despite the fact of such advanced technology that allows communication in almost every shape, form, or fashion known to man these days. Now, after taking in some cold hard facts of how urge and gratification lead one into temptation, do you leave this man who is promising a life with him and only him, or do you rely on instilled morals of long ago and begin a new journey without him' Will there ever be a true sense of committed fidelity between you and him if you stay' Such conflicting issues of the heart battle with what you know in the brain is morally wrong. No one person can make this decision for another. It is up to you to decide if you can do what is expected in view of others or if you can only follow the heart and fight for the one true soul mate you feel you can’t exist without. Can one get past the harsh realities of lies and deceit to join together for a life of binding and bonding love that includes trust also' As this has been a personal conflicting and unfortunately painful battle in my own life, you can definitely never predict what the outcome will be between two people. You live with the choice you make, whether it be the expected or the unexpected. Will you make that expected choice deriving from instilled morals of younger days or the unexpected choice driven straight from the heart'