Different_Kinds_of_Love_Around_Us

Essay: Different Kinds of Love around Us Introduction When it comes to talk about love, most of us think about love between people but there are so many other kinds of love around us. Love is not a relationship with a particular person. It is the attitude of a person towards the world as a whole. Most people believe they can prove the intensity of their love when they love nobody except the "loved" person. This is a fallacy. If someone loves only one other person and is indifferent to everyone else, his "love" is not love, but an enlarged egotism. If I truly love one person, I love all persons. If I can say to somebody else, "I love you", I must be able to say, "I love in you everybody, I love through you the world, and I love in you also myself." I have been wondering about a few of them and started to list them on paper. Definition of Love The meaning of love is quite hard to define in a few words. It could sometimes be so different and hard to understand. The definition of love cannot be only one but vary. How we look at things can change the definition of love and a lot of times it can be understood only we understand the situations or events that explain themselves. As it contains many meanings, use of love is varied as well. I have searched for the words braches of love and found out that the word ‘love’ there are numbers of branches; eros, ludus, storge, mania, pragma, agape, platonic and pilea. Despite the variety of these branches, people conclude them all and call it ‘love.’ Here is very short definition of those branches. When people fall in love for sexual attraction, this is Eros. Eros is rooted from a Greek god who controls love with arrows. This love contains physical relationship. On the other hand, platonic is a spiritual love that doesn’t contains sexual relationship but mental link between them. Ludus is a common love type between many lovers. It comes all of sudden and they have fun and enjoy meeting each other but they are not sure if they actually love each other. It is a kind of love that doesn’t restrict their freedom. Some people call this ‘enjoy.’ What we commonly call friendship is also called as storge as well. storge starts from friendship and sometimes it goes to actual love. Also silea is a love between friends or siblings. Types of Love The first love on my list is the ultimate love between people is motherly love. Why the word is stated motherly' The nature is recognized as mother. She is beautiful and kind just like our mothers. It could only mean the power of something to be created by a living thing. In other words, mothers themselves generate a great energy of love towards the baby and that love is such an unbeatable power to control. The relationship between mother and child is by its very nature one of inequality, where one needs all the help and the other gives it. It is for this altruistic, unselfish character that motherly love has been considered the highest kind of love, and the most sacred of all emotional bonds. It seems, however, that the real achievement of motherly love lies not in the mother's love for the small infant, but in her love for the growing child. The vast majority of mothers are loving mothers as long as the infant is small and still completely dependent on them. But the child must grow and eventually become a separate human being. The very essence of motherly love is to care for the child's growth, and that means to want the child's separation from herself. The mother must not only tolerate, she must wish for and support the child's separation. It is at this stage that motherly love becomes a difficult task, as it requires the ability to want nothing but the happiness of the loved one. It is also at this stage that many mothers fail in their task of motherly love. Mother means to bear or to give a birth to a baby and nurtures her own offspring and through time the separation should have to come with time for the child to stand its own to perform the love she got. It’s like a practice. I was born through my mother’s womb just like all other mammals. Her womb was so warm that bore me 10 full months to give a birth. My mother had to go through C-section which was needed to be done risking her life because she told me that she had a complication. She has been taken care of me since then. Of course, my dad looked after of me when mom was not around. He changed my diapers, gave a bath, warmed couples of bottles of milk for the night and slept with me in his arms. I could see that through some of the childhood pictures my mom took when she woke up from the nap. When I had the influenza and hospitalized for a whole month to recover, she kept me entertained and looked after me days and nights. It was one of the moments I had experienced that I am so attached to my mom. It is the motherly love which shouldn’t be underestimated and always counted for but I often seem to forget what she has done for me. No matter what happens to me, she would be there for me. It’s only because she is my mom. Everybody has mom but there is only one mom that can do that for me but there would come to a time when I would have to show that love to my kids. I know I am not a woman but I wish I could show some of the love my mom poured on me. I guess there could only be a few tasks I could to take care of my future baby like my father did. Some people have their step mothers and I hear a lot of stories so wrong to have step mothers but some positive stories of them, too. Regardless of the negative stories of mothers throwing babies into the trash cans, there is definitely true love in moms which nobody can deny it. I might change and question her love but not she and at this moment I don’t think my mom is ready to accept the separation, yet. The next on my list is the godly love. A lot of people around the world believe in Jesus Christ and his work. Some people treat him as one of the greatest rabbi, disciples, teachers, preachers, and lords. I receive Jesus as my Lord. His love has shown and carried us to the ultimate place, heaven, when we die. Not just when we die, he has shown the examples of living this life in his spirit which will always guide us into living heaven on this planet earth. I often do not quite understand this fact that we could make this world heaven because it is full of evil. Nevertheless, he died for us to save us. It’s really hard to believe to those who didn’t have any experience his being. The godly love is something we should feel to know what it is like. It’s not what we pretend to act holy but to ask of him earnestly. He would reach us into heart to reveal his way. He has his own way of showing his love. It will always go beyond my imagination which is so limited. My own instinct and experience have come from 15 years of life. This is completely nothing compared to the life of God who has created the world. When I went for a revival retreat in the 7th grade, I was touched by his existence and repented so much. Now, I could hardly remember what he has done for me. I could be such an idiot not to even recognize him and deny him like Peter. Even though Peter denied Jesus 3 times, God has used him and revealed in front of him to show his omnipotent love. Some preachers say that love is the byproduct of the close relationship with god. The true relationship should be built between me and god will bring love. I would have felt his love when I had talked to God at the retreat and he had touched me to heal. Then I thought I could do anything but now it seems so far away. It may be my fault that I don’t feel his love anymore. His love is the death of myself, the living of another reborn me, the discard of my everyday sin, the love for others and the love for me. Another kind of love I could pinpoint is the love for me. Another big part of love in me is the love for me. This love is totally coming from inside me unlike the two kinds of love mentioned earlier both motherly and godly. A lot of times, the love for me spoils whatever is around us. Many have seen that this love exceeds and brings people into hatred. There is a fine line between love and hate. Love myself can bring such a tragic and even a big war between countries. In my opinion, Hitler is one of the good examples because he only loved himself whom had an unfortunate childhood killed millions of Jews. The history has made by him that one of the devil of history should never be born. The love of me is always my priority. When things go wrong, people don’t seem to blame themselves first but others. Sometimes people happen to blame themselves but the percentage of blaming themselves is very low. It is quite obvious that people put themselves first to avoid any hardship facing the reality and try to hide things just like Adam and Eve. Eventually loving oneself may be really hard. This is the type of love people have from the moment when the first breath starts and people seem to grow with themselves realizing the bigger the love bigger the disappointment follows. Even though, this starts from me it has become a phenomenon to love in a proper way. Many books on being me and loving me in a proper way are well sold throughout the world because they teach and guide what people are looking for and dreaming of. When would be the last time thinking that you really love yourself' In my case, it is such a hard question to answer. It would go way back when I got such a good grade which was an average of absolute 100% and I felt so proud of myself that I could do anything then. This wouldn’t mean I really love myself. Loving me might be hard but people just vaguely know how to love themselves. A lot of us try to look better than others and dress and buy things for ourselves. Could this be the love of me' If doing something for oneself is the love of self being, then anything we are doing everyday life routine is based on the love of me. Some patients who are diagnosed as under depression are known to be persons who have given up doing for themselves. They don’t want to look nice because they have no zeal for anything. Lack of interest in looking for something nice is the biggest enemy. Loving of me is one of the most precious energy that has to come out within ourselves. A lot of times, it is such a hard to job to push myself to like myself. If anyone can do this well, then the person must be a successful person in life. People are easily affected by love; especially their emotions are greatly affected by it. Some people die to be loved and some people die to love. Love can torture other people like stalkers, but love can also give people hopes and company like religion. Unlike the loves I have stated earlier, the most fundamental kind of love, which underlies all types of love, is brotherly love. This type of love is more social and rather an outside activity. Brotherly love is love for all human beings, and is characterized by its very lack of exclusiveness. Brotherly love is love between equals. But indeed, even as equals, we are not always "equal". Because we are all human, we are all in need of help. Today I and tomorrow you would always there in relationships. This need of help does not mean that the one is always helpless and the other is always powerful. Helplessness is a transitory condition. As I have briefly mentioned in the love of me, some sort of depression and disease that is caused by the mind which cannot be controlled by a free will would be a transitory condition. Such symptom can be experience throughout life and any stage of life which one might feel so lost and a lot of times the aging is bring the emptiness. It could change and comes to anybody who is living in this world. We, human beings, are such social people who need to live in the form of community. The love of the helpless one, of the pauper and of the stranger, is the beginning of brotherly love. To love one's own flesh and blood is no achievement. Only in the love of those who do not serve a purpose does love begin to unfold. By having compassion for the helpless one, man begins to develop love for his brother. Under the roof of the globe, we are one family and people are trying to come together to show brotherly love in many ways like missionaries, educators, preachers, welfare entities, conservatory business based entities, humanitarian immigration, and many more organization which try to love the others. This is the part of brotherly love in a broader context scale. Great part of love involved some physical arousal and changes which make the heart beat and even sob with tears. Quite different brotherly love and motherly love are from each other, what they have in common is that they are not restricted to one person. Erotic love, in contrast, is the craving for complete fusion or union with one other person. It is by its very nature exclusive and not universal. It is also, perhaps, the most deceptive form of love there is. For the sexual desire is coupled with the idea of love, people are easily misled to conclude that they love each other when they want each other physically. Sexual attraction creates the illusion of union. Yet without love this union leaves the "lovers" as far apart as strangers. Sometimes it makes them ashamed of each other, or even makes them hate each other. The feelings for each other change and the change can come at any time of their relationship. The time span can vary from people to people and it well be depended on the person’s taste and intention. A lot of times, people get on cold feet when they feel a bit pressured and question the love they had both physically and heartily. Most people neglect an important factor in erotic love, that of will. To love somebody is not just a strong feeling. It is a decision, it is a judgment, and it is a promise. Any of these is underestimated then the person will have hard time keeping this erotic type of love to carry further on to his life. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. Feelings may come and go, but erotic love is fundamentally an act of will and commitment. Whether the marriage was arranged by others or was the result of individual choice, the act of should guarantee the continuation of love. A lot of teenagers might argue with be because they have a lot of crashes during young teenage through the young adult life, but I feel that this type of love is the least of love category which I have been listing so far. Physical features are important to both sexes but a bit more so to men. During attraction the parts of a man's brain associated with processing visual information are more active. That's true for woman, too, but they also show activity in the brain regions that integrate decision making, which suggests they're thinking about a little bit more than just how he looks. Maybe this is why people say “I have a crush on +++.” Having such a strong impression on something like a crush which damages the brain region to make a numbness that will give no other stimulation brings a physical side of our body to react. The next love is for nature. I haven’t given so much thought on this love but I have come up with an urge to see it, recently. Taking photographs has become my hobby a few years ago and I started to see how I should love the nature and I feel so sorry for taking it for granted. Anything without love dies. I had a pot of cactus which I had kept in my room for couples of months and it started to wither and finally died a few weeks after the withering. The problem was that I gave a bit too much water and didn’t give too much care or love rather. I have read a newspaper a few months ago. On that report which some high school students tested the rice they got from their lunch tray and the rice was left out in the locker in a recycled juice bottle for a month. There were two bottles kept in different lockers but the boys threw bad cursed words to the first bottle and loving words to the second bottle. This fun kind of game has started off with a joke but later it turned out to be a quite stunning scientific experiment after all. The first week was quite the same except both had a little white mold with a bit of smell but the weeks go by the mold became more and got greener and darker on the one which was cursed with words. Of course, the one with loving words and courage was covered with white colored mold and the smell wasn’t as bad as the first one. One of the Japanese scientists studied the water to show that it listen to us and acts towards what we say. If we take a good care of our nature and nurture it like what most parents do, then the nature will not be ruined as much. The world is in trouble due to the disasters. Throughout the years, more disasters took the millions of lives of people around the world. Conclusion There are many different kinds of love and they have been an important material for a long time. I believe that everyone has said “I love you” once in their lives. The phrase, “I love you” contains many things. It contains trust, hope, happiness, respect, admiration, misery, obsession, attachment, care, understanding, and etc. As it contains many meanings, use of love is varied as well. No one can live without love. Love won’t be gone no matter how time goes. Love can lead people to gradual difference between madness and happiness. Ironically, not being loved is affective as much as being loved. People who have not been loved become negative, cynical and sarcastic. In return, they started to really hate themselves. They think no one loves them, and everyone will leave them. They also want other people’s attention very badly. On the other hand, when people are too loved, they feel uncomfortable, and accept the love more as obsession and distasteful favor that they do not need so much like stalker. It can be sweet but it can also be nothing but torturous weapon. As much as it is needed to everyone, it has rules as well. Figuring out those rules is one of task in people’s lives. Out of many rules, if I give you hint; people should love other people, but should also care about how their love affects them. We are living in this world together in one happy family under one big roof.