Childminding_-_Behaviour

Describe typical behaviours exhibited by children linked to their stage of development and key events in their lives . A child develops in stages so their development does not proceed smoothly in a uniform rhythm. There are periods of calm when the child reinforces the skills learned and experience. Periods of calm are then followed by periods of breakthrough, during which the child acquires new skills and enters the next phase of their development. In times of breakthrough the disruptive child, parent behavior poses a lot of trouble. The child is then restless and very sensitive, they are subject to enormous pressure both physically and mentally. As adults we can commit mistakes in understanding behavior in these critical moments for the child. Parents do not understand the strange behavior of their child. During these difficult phases a child needs increased attention from their parents/carers. Paradoxically, if the child’s "bad" behavior is the center of attention of for the parents this will lead to the strengthening of the inappropriate behavior and may contribute to serious difficulties in parenting. Stages of child development * The eighth month of life - this is the time when the child begins to distinguish between "known" and "unknown", they can feel the basic states of uncertainty and confusion. * The third year of life - the child enters the period of waywardness, they begin to create the first stand-alone plans for their life, for example, they wonder who they would like to be in the future e.g fireman, nurse etc. * The sixth year of life - there are changes in the shape of the child's body, which is associated with disturbances of mental and physical balance. The child’s sleep pattern may get worse, they have a tendancy to get angry often and be capricious and can often get sick. * The period of adolescence - the child may have difficulty accepting themselves and feel uncertainty. Often their behavior expresses opposition to the accepted norms, they may well rebel. Sumarizing: behaviors such as screaming, kicking, hitting, throwing things, biting, lying, swearing, stealing, smoking, mutilation of themself or eating disorders are often a cry for help, a manifesto that something is wrong and the child needs urgent help. As a parent or carer we need to help them to understand what is going on for them. During each phase of a childs development they are changing. A child will show different behaviours and will respond differently to external stimuli. As parents/cares we must learn to adapt our behavior to the different stages of emotional development of the child. It is helpful to know when a child is undergoing difficult moments in their family life, for example a new born baby in the family, a change of school class or house, or they may be a witness to an accident, disaster and even their parents divorce. Notwithstanding this, at whichever stage of development a child is at, it is my role to help parents raise a happy, wise and good child, the most important conditions for the proper development of a child is their sense of security and understanding. The easiest way to show your child to understanding and demonstrate that we treat them seriously is to accept and respect their feelings 7.2 Explain how ground rules for behaviours are developed and implemented. Teaching standards of behaviour, showing love and esteem to small child, we become to them the authority and we strengthening our bond with them. A child who knows the limitations is able to distinguish right from wrong, knows their position in the family and has a sense of security. The proper development is needed above all. The parents (and if there is a need to employ) and child-minder should remember that they need to work together to raise the child. Without the collaboration of parents, it will not work. That is why is worthwhile to clearly define our expectations of ourselves and both parties should consistently adhere to their agreement and expectations. We need to educate a child from an early age, at the end of the first year of life parents/careers should determine the rules and follow them consistently, eg: * Give the child a sense of security by setting rules and boundaries * Show respect * Devote plenty of time to the child. When I spend time with a child I should be with him 100%. Children who are ignored or, where parents exhibit indifference can become aggressive. * Learn to listen to the child, regardless of their age. * Talk to your child. Speak to your child, gently and quietly. Do not insult, do not compare, treat your child with respect. Use clear messages; do not lecture a small child. Remember that words can hurt just as much as a smack. Praise them for their effort and for achievement. Constantly repeat and reinforce “I know you can do it "- it will help your child believe in themselves. Concentrate on what to do rather than what not to do. * Set the rules and be consistent. If we want the child to know they are not allowed to touch the oven, touch the playing equipment, pull hair, jump on the sofas, hit, spit, etc. - you need to tell them. Calmly and firmly: "Do not touch the oven, because it can burn you" "Do not pull hair because it hurts," Repeat this every time. The orders and prohibitions teach a little person how to live by society’s rules, what is right and what is not. A child is not born with all that knowledge. Remember that the child will test us and the boundaries, but they are still not allowed what was forbidden - so being consistent is very important. * Do not be afraid to be resolute The child should know that "no" means "no". I do not have to and I will not give in to all the whims of the child. It takes a sense of security. I can't give in, when the baby is trying to force something on me by screaming. I need to try to remain calm such situations, calmly and firmly tell a child that I do not like that kind of behaviour and try to distract the child, show or interest them in something else. * Allow the child to show affection. Growing children can experience different feelings, often contradictory. So let the child cry, scream, be afraid or nervous. Tears and rage help to relieve tension. The child has the right to show anger if I didn't allow them to do something, but it does not mean that I have to give up or give in. * Allow your child to defend their property. Do not force your child to subjugate in every situation, in order to make another happy. The child also has the right to express their own opinion and even to resist. * Allow for independence and their own child's activity. * Teach order and good manners Already a two-year-old should have a small household duties - it helps children to have a role in the family and not just to be a member. Good manners are a sign of respect for others; if you respect others you also respect yourself. When we introduce and follow with the above standards there should not be any problems. If any problems appear I will have to discuss them with the parents and find out what could be the reason for the bad behaviour of the child and work together to find a solution not forgetting the welfare of the child is the most important thing.