Cause_and_Effect

Cause and Effect of Divorce Cause and Effect of Divorce A child can have a very hard time losing a parent to divorce. A child’s life can start to become very traumatic and can develop behavioral problems. Many children have a difficult time with life changing events which can effect their day to day activities. Divorce is overwhelming for a number of children which can affect the rest of their life. To lose a parent can also affect the way a child learns and can cause severe learning disabilities. Children sometimes feel as if they do not have the time or support from their parents which can make it very difficult for them to cope their own emotions as well as day to day activities. Children are most likely to have the most difficult time with dealing in more than one divorce. Parents that adjust to their losses in a less emotional way, children tend to usually adjust easier in that type of situation and can have less problems while growing up. Children that grow up in a single parent house tend to feel the stress of their parents when there is a lack of financial resources as well as time. This can cause a child or children to be resentful of others and also cause lower confidence. An additional problem that affects children who have gone through divorce, is the child usually will have a more stressful way of living. Children may also have to change schools when a parent is forced to move to a different location resulting from the divorce. Also, if the child is not old enough to take care of themselves, and the now single parent is forced to work full time, the child would possibly have to start attending a child care program. It is possible that the child would have to alternate between parents in different locations which is also very hard on a child. The adjustments to different settings and schedules and trying to remembers which days are with what parent can be confusing and stressful. In a divorce, the parents don’t usually get along and may have different opinions on many situations. They may go to court and fight against each other about what factors caused the separation leading to the divorce and how the properties are divided. This possible exposure is very unhealthy for a child. The child sees his parents fighting and may learn from the behavior of one parent and display it in their own way. He or she may see that behavior as being an acceptable action. The fighting behavior of parents can cause serious behavioral problems within a child, more so than a child not from a broken home. The child may hear things from one parent about the other that causes the child to take sides when he or she should be learning not to be biased and to love both parents equally. Behavioral issues can stem from a disagreement or problem with a friend, issues in school and jealousy problems can be prime examples. Sometimes it benefits the child if provided professional help and/or family therapy sessions. It is proven that boys have a harder time with a parent's divorce than girls, partly because boys tend to blame themselves more for the divorce. Boys are the ones that will take any blame and girls are the ones that will try not to get in the middle of problems. Children can begin to express the feelings of failure, loneliness, and depression that their parents display. It is hard to focus on school if a child is expecting to help with the income (such as in the working class) or is in the middle of the divorce between parents. Time becomes an issue if the child has to appear in the court case, which can potentially lead to school troubles. To add to that issue, trouble in school can lead to future problems. The problems are continual chains that have negative affects. Bad grades along with stress in school because of behavior problems or problems getting school work done can lead to a future that is not as brilliant as the one the child started off towards. For example, instead of becoming a doctor, a child may stop caring about school and drop out of school or become a restaurant employee, something lower than a doctor. Low grades can affect what college the child eventually gets into and therefore his or her career path. Divorce and parental loss can result in relationship troubles. The negative influences the children gain from the divorce and the conflicts they see their parents engage in can affect how the child treats his or her friends. A negative behavior learned from the fighting of a child's parents can lead to the child fighting with other people such as peers. This can, in return, lead to a child having a hard time finding friends and people to idolize. Children can develop the "sleeper effect" which means when they grow older, they will have a hard time forming relationships with other people because they do not want to act or be treated like either one of their parents, and they become afraid of commitment. Jealousy is also caused by parental loss because parental care may dwindle or the money for resources may become meager. This, in turn, may lead to more behavior problems. One problem can be a child becomes a bully to a classmate because the child is jealous of what the other classmate has. It can also lead to stealing because of the want for something the child cannot have but another one may have. Another thing is a lower self-esteem because their new learned behavior may cause the child to lose friends or not feel as "cool" as the other children who have more friends and money. A divorce of parents can lead to signs of distress because of hurt feelings or loss of support from parents. A child may stop eating or have a hard time sleeping. A child may become more emotional. Some children are constantly worrying while others are angry or sad. Little children with divorced parents tend to throw more tantrums than those children of married parents. Children cry more often and are not as happy when their parents are divorced. This can lead to mental instability when the child becomes older, lower self-esteem which turns into bad behaviors as previously discussed, or, to the extreme, suicide. As a result, the things that occur when parents get divorce can negatively affect a child's life. A child is more likely to have problems and to lead a life that is not as joyous as that of a child with the parents still married. The divorce of parents greatly harms the child's relationships with people, school life, and their economic standings. These are problems that face the world today and are becoming more common. It is a sad situation that is happening, but hopefully since people are marrying later, it will decrease the numbers of children with divorced parents