Divorce

Divorce It is pointless to debate the appropriateness of divorce in general. One need only consider the married people one knows who have been divorced for years, and everyone realizes it but the couple in question. One need only consider the walking wounded who are enduring marriages without sex, love or kindness. We need divorce to save our lives, and that is really what is at issue here: the responsibility each of us has to save our life in the face of the real and too-often realized threat of living without love, sex or kindness. Some of us will divorce. Of those who do, some will do it well, some badly. Beyond this, nothing more can be said. It is pointless and uninteresting to discuss divorce, true on the general level, but especially on the personal. Divorce is a period of such violence that one tells oneself an endless series of self-preserving lies then forgets they were lies then survives by finally forgetting the whole of it and getting on with life. And that final phrase, that's the point, and just what the most of us who have been through divorce want to tell our friends who are going through it, but of course they won't listen. This in turn finally amounts to the divorce, children, one, another, problems, love, families, adultery, young, years, wife, away, own, need, failure, even, committeth, wives, two-parent, true, though, things, thing, same, put, pointless, paul, out, order, never, must, later, husband, getting, everyone, doing, divorces, course, consider, work, woman, without, wallerstein, time, through, think, themselves, suffered, spend, significant, should