Bandcock

Bandcock Marriage responsibilities- Hindu- set at birth, many restraints, idea of pativratya or good wife=obeys husband as an inferior (eat after, walk after, sleep after, sit behind). Death of wife before husband leaving many sons is happiest death for women. China- no place for single women, arranged at first menstruation by matchmaker, husbands 10-30 years older, dowry and bride given to husband and family, no more with old family, new boss is mother-in-law, more status w/ more sons, wives can be sold w/price of grain, divorce ok by husband family, no divorce if parents of wife are dead or husband is rich now but was poor before, in death, widow has no future, doesn't have to bear children, remarriage only to lower class. Death Ideas- Hindu- if death of husband occurs 1st, female has no right to remarry, responsibility of children, shaved head, clothes white, no jewelry, no amusements- if she mourns death and does all listed she has been forgiven all bad karma and her husband have 35 years of bliss(sati). China- value scale=positive virtues where female has 3 submissions to father, son, and husband, good behavior where wifely respect for in-laws, negative behavior where female licentiousness, and evil behavior where wives have jealousy, death, husband, female, idea, one, good, sons, family, birth, woman, wife, trade, things, suffering, stages, society, power, inferior, harmony, divorce, ancestor, after, years, worship, wives, wealthy, way, tradition, social, single, should, powers, older, nirvana, must, land, karma, ideas, heaven, govt, government, desire, days, china, best, behavior, work, women, whole, wealth